A Husband's Guide to : Advice
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"Really, TheHusBlog, now you are writing a blog about advice?!" First off, thank you for using my name. "You're Welcome." Secondly, I feel like after all my blogs I would be negligent if I did not take some time to explore the idea of advice giving. Whenever I think about advice I am drawn to a quote from Baz Luhrmann in his "Everyone's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)"
"Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
ugly parts and recycling it for more than
it’s worth."
And I cannot write about advice without sharing one of my father's favorite pieces of advice : "Always leave the sand trap better than how you found it." My father was an avid golfer for many years, and the custom, when your ball lands in a sand trap is to hit your ball out of it, then rake the sand trap back to a pristine condition before moving on. Now for those of you who don't golf, a sand trap is just what it sounds like, a trap (easy Admiral Ackbar...{if you get that joke then you are a total nerd and I love you for it}). So the advice really is two fold. Oh crap I forgot a definition pause... Hang on...
TheHusBlog Definition Pause : How "Always leave the sand trap better than how you found it." is two fold advice...(I know that was smooth right?)
TheHusBlog Definition Pause : How "Always leave the sand trap better than how you found it." is two fold advice...(I know that was smooth right?)
- The Main Point : This piece of advice at it's core is about making every situation better than when you found it. Think of every act you do as your legacy, leaving things better because you were involved. This doesn't mean you have to save the world, but maybe cleaning the kitchen after you cook dinner is a good start. Keep it simple, but mind the fact that leaving something better than how you found it is at least something to strive for.
- The Underlying Point : If you notice, in the situation you are in a sand trap, a bad place. In fact in golf there are few places as bad as the sand. So the advice is really not only about making a situation better, but it is about making a situation better when you are in a tough spot. Now hopefully a little light bulb has gone off over your head and you begin to realize the depth of this saying. So in reality the point is about creating a better situation when you, yourself are hitting a rough patch...
Take the high road in a fight, swallow your hurtful words before they come out, comfort someone else when you need some comfort... All these are examples of leaving the sand trap better than when you found it.
-TheHusBlog
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